The Heart of Buddhist Psychology and How It Can Help You Live a More Meaningful Life

Understanding the Three Marks of Existence

The three marks of existence are the basic facts about our existence that form the foundation of Buddhist psychology. They are the facts that make up our experience, and if we are able to understand them better, we can find freedom from our suffering. The first mark of existence is impermanence. We experience things as changing and evolving all the time, whether we’re aware of it or not. The only thing that doesn’t change is our perception of things as remaining the same. The second mark of existence is suffering. In order to be alive, we must be able to feel pain, discomfort, and dissatisfaction. Our bodies need enough stress to stay healthy, and our minds need a healthy amount of dissatisfaction so that they can continue to grow and change. The third mark of existence is emptiness. This might seem like an odd addition to the list of facts about existence, but it’s an important one that ties the first two together.

The Problem With Human Suffering

Buddhists believe that the reason we suffer is because of our attachment to false views of the world. They believe that we are biologically hardwired to believe in things that aren’t true—and that this causes a great deal of our suffering. It’s important to note that Buddhists do not view attachment as a bad thing. It is a necessary part of life, and they see it as a positive thing. However, they define attachment as being too attached to something, to the point where you become closed off to new experiences or information that might help you see things in a different light. You might be attached to a certain philosophy, way of living, or sense of self that isn’t healthy or helpful to you. There are five false views or beliefs that can cause us to suffer. If we are able to let go of these false beliefs, we can find freedom from our suffering and move towards a more fulfilling life. These five false beliefs are: – The belief that our experiences are permanent – The belief that we have a static self or identity – The belief that happiness comes from the outside world – The belief that our thoughts are facts – The belief that external things are more important than our own well-being

Five False Beliefs That Cause Our Suffering

The belief that our experiences are permanent – This is the belief that the things that happen to us will always be with us. In reality, many of our experiences are fleeting, and if we are able to view them as such, we can rise above them and move beyond them. – The belief that we have a static self or identity – This is the belief that we are who we are, and that we can’t change or grow. We don’t have to be tied down by our pasts or by other people’s ideas of who we are. We can change and become more than who we are. – The belief that happiness comes from the outside world – This is the belief that by collecting more things, having more experiences, and achieving certain milestones, we can be happy, but in reality, this isn’t true. – The belief that our thoughts are facts – This is the belief that our thoughts are a representation of reality, when they are just our internal dialogue. They might be based in reality, but they don’t accurately reflect the situation. – The belief that external things are more important than our own well-being – This is the belief that things outside of ourselves, like money, status, or material goods are more important than our own health and well-being.

How to Overcome Our Pain and Suffering

Buddhism suggests that there is a path towards overcoming our pain and suffering, and it can be broken down into three steps: Refuge, Self-Reflection, and Engagement. The first step towards overcoming our pain and suffering is to take refuge in the path. We are not perfect, and we are not meant to be. We all have flaws, and it’s okay to acknowledge them and be imperfect. What’s important is to acknowledge our struggles and take refuge in a path that enables us to overcome those flaws. By taking refuge in the path, we allow ourselves to be imperfect but become better over time. The second step towards overcoming our pain and suffering is to engage in self-reflection. In order to improve, we need to know what we’re working with. We need to be able to see our pain, recognize it, and see it for what it is. Once we’ve recognized our flaws, we can start working towards changing them and becoming a better person.


Buddhist psychology is more than just a set of meditation techniques. It’s methodology for understanding the human mind and finding freedom from our pain and suffering that can be applied to our daily lives. Understanding the three marks of existence, the problem with human suffering, and the path towards overcoming that suffering can help us lead more meaningful and fulfilling lives.

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I focus on a mindful approach and help my clients learn how our mind and our body can bring support, self care and healing.

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